Love is probaly the most confusing emotion of them all. It’s an emotion which cannot be described to someone who hasn’t felt such feeling. This is my thought about love. Imagine someone out in the world, someone who can make you stomach turn due to nerves. Not only that but touching someone else’s skin which can make you feel warm and safe inside, its truly an incredible emotion. I myself am in love with a girl, a girl who ive known for over a year now, and despite my 18 years of being alive, my time with her has brought so many memories which I will never forget, truly. Although love is powerful, it’s still has it’s problems.

When I was just a boy I used to witness my own parents fight and argue about things I felt were pointless and stupid, I even questioned my mother, asking “Why do you fight? If you love each other shouldn’t you be happy?” but today I now understand the reason for this. Most relationships which are destined to be together for some time always go through stages. I myself have gone through these exact stages.

First of all it begins, two people come together due to a small feeling they have inside, you begin to wonder what will come of you two and how happy you will be, but then love begins to slowly sink in. The first stage is the fright of losing your boyfriend/girlfriend, it’s a feeling that sometimes can make you feel very insecure because you have become attached to one person emotionally and it’s the happiest you’ve been. You cherish these moments with everything it has to deliver. You then feel like a clock is ticking down to the point in which someone else will gain the person you’ve grown fond of very much, you trust no-one but yourself and your boyfriend/girlfriend.

The next stage is the love. Once you accept you are to be together, love begins to flourish within you both. The feeling is only something you can describe yourself if you have felt this fantastic emotion. Some boyfriends/girlfriends can feel comfortable saying the “I love you” at the beginning, but some people feel that this is a step too forward and too committed at the early stages. Once you begin sharing “I love you” you should consider your relationship long term if you feel you are ready for commitment.

The next stage is arguing. This may seem scary, horrible and something you hate but what you’ll find is that majority of the things couples argue about in the early stages of the relationship is either involving jealousy, in-secure or even sometimes irritation. Now jealousy is a huge problem, any boy/girl will know this and if any-one from the opposite gender is talking to your loved one you immediately become worried and concerned. See thing is you don’t wish to see someone you care for so much fall in love with someone else, but you should never argue over this, sit down together and just talk. Talking is a huge part to a relationship working well and it brings you together, instead of arguing which will lead to anger, then being upset and you’ll be back in love before you know it, don’t waste your time on jealousy.

An In-secure boyfriend/girlfriend should confined in each other to get across the problem, sometimes it’s maybe you’ve put on weight or feel ugly and wonder to yourself “why will he/she love me when I look like this?” don’t hide this inside, talk to each other and you’ll begin realising that he/she will love you no matter what.

Irritation can occur when your boyfriend/girlfriend does things which annoy you. Whether it’s the fact he/she says something that comes across as offensive, you take this to heart, especially if this continues. An example of this would be your boyfriend talking to you less or playing video games when you would like him to talk to you, but you do not complain but if this continues including anything else that begins to irritate you, you then become very eager to give sly comments to hurt their feelings to make up for the times they’ve hurt you.

But don’t worry, at times you can feel yourself and your relationship going down and you don’t feel like anything is working out like it did in the beginning when everything was perfect and happy. Never lose sight of this, consider the above problems and talk, if you do this you’ll become closer and much more in love. I myself have gone through all these problems as of others that I have stated, but don’t do anything you’ll regret otherwise it will eventually hurt not only you, but your loved one too.

1 year and 4 months I have been with my loved one, and after we got through all the problems together, we came out the other end better, stronger and much more in love than what we were in the beginning.

I am aware they’re many more problems which can occur in a relationship, but you should always remember. Love is always un-conditional, and is always worth fighting for.

-MrUnknown